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Sometimes, despite all the evidence to the contrary, we just don’t have as much confidence in ourselves as we should. While it’s important to periodically remind yourself how amazing you really are and that you have every reason to be confident, there are little things we do on a daily basis that drag down our confidence further. Even worse, these things can also signal to others that we’re not confident.

A few examples:

  • We don’t state things confidently, instead using caveats, “maybe”s and “I think”s or discounting what you’re saying before you say it (e.g., “I don’t know if this is right but [brilliant insight].” “I’m not sure if this will work but [totally genius idea].”) We might also use a hesitant tone that sounds more like we’re asking a question than asking a statement. [click to continue…]

Are you the jump out of bed and take time for yourself in the morning type? The hit the snooze button a few times then try to stay awake through a shower type? The into-email before out-of-pajamas type?

That first chunk of time that we’re awake is a unique point during the day, and intentionally designing a morning ritual can have a huge impact on your day, life, goals, health, and mood. In other words, taking the time to map out how you will spend your time as soon as you wake up – what you will do and in what order – is a very worthwhile investment.

Five Things You Should Know About Creating a Morning Ritual:

  1. You really do have time.  First, if you start doing the same things you do every morning already in a set order, you’ll likely move much faster as they become habit. Then you can stack new habits on top of existing ones (e.g., think of something you’re grateful for every time you brush your teeth or do a few push-ups right before you get in the shower). It’s easy to think there’s just no time to fit even one more thing into your morning, but you really don’t need to spend much time to have a big effect. Even adding one minute of stretching or deep breaths, a quick moment to write down a goal for the day, or reading one page of an inspiring book makes a difference, especially when you do it every day. Start small, and build over time [click to continue…]

Today, let’s take a moment to talk about how we can sometimes set ourselves up to fail and how you can make things a little easier on yourself.

Think of something that you’d like to change in your daily life – it could be a new habit you want to develop or a goal that you’re trying to tackle – but that just isn’t working out. For example, maybe you want to spend more time on developing new business, or maybe you want to start meditating for 10 minutes a day. Yet, the days keep going by and it’s not happening. You might be frustrated, but you can’t quite figure out how to make it happen.

So often, the reason we don’t see success is simply that we’re making the goal too hard to achieve.

For example, let’s take the goal of meditating 10 minutes each day. We know that most goals don’t happen without a plan, but often our plan for getting it done is too difficult. Maybe you decided that you would take a break during the work day to spend 10 minutes meditating. But every day you get busy and distracted and either forget or don’t feel like you can stop. By picking a time during the day where it’s unlikely that you’ll be able to take a break, you’ve made the goal very difficult to achieve.

Instead, you may have better luck taking just 10 minutes (or even just 2 minutes!) to meditate in the morning, at home or in the office, when no one else is around, when your willpower is still fresh first thing in the morning, and when you don’t have any distractions. Do what you can to get the ball rolling until it becomes part of your routine.
Here are a few other examples to get your wheels turning: [click to continue…]

Lawyers often waste time when they try to work on marketing and networking.  We know we should spend time on business development, but we don’t always know what to do or what we’re going to get out of that time.  Sometimes we go to a networking event or write an article just to feel like we’re doing something to move forward.

Check in with your own marketing efforts by asking the following:

  • Do you know exactly what you expect to get out of each one of your marketing efforts?
  • Do you know who you want to reach and what is helpful to them?
  • Do you know where and how to reach them?
  • Do you have a marketing plan with concrete steps, clear goals, and specific time frames?

If you’re answering no to many of these questions, that’s not unusual.  After all, we don’t typically learn how to market, network, or develop new business, No one teaches us, but we’re expected to know how.  Take a few minutes to answer these questions as best you can to get the wheels turning, then we’ll dig in more as we move forward.

If you’re a newer attorney, or an attorney new to marketing, tell me what’s frustrating about it.  For those that have more experience with business development, what advice would you give to newer women attorneys, what do you wish you knew?